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Saturday, May 1st, 2010

Subject:feel slike ive been looking forever
Posted by:kinkyartgirl.
Time:4:17 pm.
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Monday, March 16th, 2009

Subject:Intro + How to Find Sympathetic Room-Mates?
Posted by:amazon_syren.
Time:10:16 pm.
Mood: hopeful.

I'm new to the community (thense the intro post). I live in Ottawa, Canada. I met my girlfriend when I guest-lectured in her women's studies class, and then met her again just about seven months ago, at Dyke March. Which is when we got together and started dating.

She told me about starting to get into sex work the first time I went over to her house. She was doing foot-fetish events at that point, though she's since moved on to stripping and escort work as well as occasional porn movies.

I am far less interesting - I do temp work in government offices and write stuff (mostly poetry, some often-erotic prose) when I can.

Anyway. I joined this community because (A) I can't join the sexworkers' community (the one that dirrected me here, anyway), and (B) I want to ask questions of people who have some idea about how the business works.

At the moment, the most pressing question goes like this:

My girlfriend is about to relocated to NYC.
She's trans and a US citizen. Ottawa is a small city. Not a whole lot of clientel and they are, frankly, cheap. That combined with no valid work visa means that she's not had the best time of it since she graduated. So she's moving back to the states, to a city with a large enough clientel-base that she can actually make a living at her work (or, failing that, can make a living doing escorting plus having a lower-paying but more less legally iffy job on the side, since she doesn't need a visa south of the border).

But. She needs to find a room-mate in New York.

Does anyone in NYC (Manhattan, specifically) know where to find queer-&-trans-friendly, room-mate seeking gals who are either in the business or who are allies?

Does anyone have any idea about this?

Thanks a bunch, folks.

- Amazon.
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Thursday, September 25th, 2008

Subject:SFW - Stoya's first porn
Posted by:movehalfaninch.
Time:7:43 pm.
But sexy times....

By the way, the girl in this clip is Stoya, whom i guess is kind of a famous now: Stoya's myspace.

In this video, which was shot in InnerPartySystem's basement, Stoya (the star) is getting eaten out by her boyfriend.

From what i understand, Stoya wanted to do porn and so this was her first video... after the director shot this in IPS's basement she went away and became some big porn star. she's even starring in this huge production porn that's a remake of Pirates of the Carribean:

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Thursday, June 26th, 2008

Posted by:genderpac.
Time:4:55 pm.

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Tuesday, October 24th, 2006

Subject:Trans Sex Worker Community
Posted by:demi_dysphoria.
Time:7:56 pm.

I found it necessary to create a community for Trans Sex Workers. You see, we don't have a lot of support, either from the culture at large, or from Sex Worker communities, where there are either transphobia/access issues, or simply not enough information specialized in regards to our practices. This leaves Trans Sex Workers between a rock and a hard place, which places them at far higher risks for Police Busts, Violence and Poverty.

What this community is based upon, loosely, is the modern "Sex Workers' Movement" and "Feminist Sex Work" ethics. Briefly stated, this is a manner by which Sex Workers (Escorts, Phone Sex Operators, Porn Models, Dancers) are encouraged to operate as independants (rather than for pimps and agencies), to be aware of thier rights, and to have access to information which empowers them. There is a lot of emphasis on being Smart and Savvy, and developing co-op entities for work and safety. I've noticed that within this new ethic, Trans-Persons have been largely left out, despite the large percentile of (mostly M2F) trans-persons who become Sex Workers for one reason or another. Overall, the solution is D.I.Y. No one else is going to create this form of community for us, so if you need it, help build it! This is a MAJOR effort to empower Trans-Persons, as so many of us find ourselves in Sex Work, whether by choice or force (usually a combination of the two.)

If you are just such a person (or considering becoming one), or are a knowledgable ally (as in, non-trans), please talk to me about joining this community (preferably by e-mail: demi777@gmail.com)

Please! If this has been posted to your community, it has been as a effort to bring this demographic together! This may be a life-line to many of us, if you do not agree with our way of life, or do not care for the subject, please just leave this be! There will always be Sex Workers, and plenty of them will be Trans. I'm not looking to begin discussions here (that would be for the Trans Sex Work group), just looking for those of us who are in need! (Nor am I inferring, by posting to your community page, that the members of the community are all Sex Workers. This is outreach.)

This will be cross-posted into [info]mtf_lesbians, [info]mtf_undressed, [info]protips, [info]sexpositive_sw, [info]tranny_please, [info]transfeminism, [info]womens_studies, [info]trans_poc, [info]rainbowsupport, [info]sexworkpartners

If you know a Trans Sex Worker, please let them know! Spread the word! Post in other communities!

For more specific info, I'm posting the "Mission Statement" (also available on the community's info page) below this LJ cut. Its really quite an essay, so don't read unless you're really interested. (It is rather educational.)

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Tuesday, January 31st, 2006

Subject:Wonderful to find this community
Posted by:pixiegyrrl.
Time:2:09 pm.

I am a sex worker and have a partner who know what I do. We have had our ups and downs over my chosen line of business..

So some of my girlfriends and I started a little website to help sex workers, clients and partners.

We would love any input you have - stories, experiences, and writings.

We have had many submissions to date but the area is vast.

Please check us out www.sex-work.org

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Friday, January 20th, 2006

Subject:volunteer orientation in NYC for $pread Magazine
Posted by:birdsongorg.
Time:5:26 pm.
passing this along from those hard-working gals & guys at PONY in NYC

This Sunday January 22nd at 5pm, $pread is having a volunteer orientation in NYC for anyone in who's interested in helping out with the magazine, whether as an intern, a volunteer or on a more permanent basis.  

At the moment we're particularly looking for people to fill the following positions:

  • Assistant Art Director

  • Graphic Designer

  • Outreach Coordinator

  • Publicist

  • Advertising Intern

None of these positions require previous professional experience, just dedication and hard work!  If you think you can take on one of these roles, or if you want to help out in some other way, come along at 5pm this Sunday and meet us.  

If you want to volunteer but can't make it to the meeting or you don't live in NYC? Drop us a line at info@spreadmagazine.org.  

The meeting will be held at Earth Matters, 177 Ludlow Street, just below Houston.  Subway, F, V to 2nd Ave.   

We usually sit upstairs, and we'll try and remember to wear our$pread T-shirts so you'll recognize us!  

Please note that $pread is an all-volunteer organization so we can't offer compensation, but all interns and volunteers get free magazines and entry to parties!  

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Monday, November 7th, 2005

Subject:How to run a succsessfull independent escort buisness that is surprinsingly low risk
Posted by:gothiclolita16.
Time:10:51 pm.
Advice on how to run a very succsessfull and surpingly low risk escort buisness from an independent
I am a 21 year old independent that has been doing this for a couple years. I get more buisness than most of the girls in seattle because I have desighne dmy buisness in a unique way. Some of the advice i saw on this baord wasnt right at all and i highly doubt the girls even got many calls, of course just a couple a week is probally worth it to them. I believe in posting all the information regarding my services on my website and a fair amount in my ad without of course saying anything illegal. Its all about using the right langauge. Its best to just post your hourly rate on your websit or your ad and say that you refuse to discuss funds or nogotiate. Clients actually respect this andas long as you charge in the 200-300 range, or up to 400 an hour mabey for New York this will be toally cool with people. Also dont upsale, its just provides for a negative enviornment. If you request on your website or ad that they place the donation on a table outside of an envelope and make no mencion of the donation there is no way to say that there were any services rendered. Dont say anything over the phone and as long as you post your stuff on your website police will disvoer they cant get any recordings on you and your probalkly not tied to any sex rings. Also you will want to post photos of yourself on the internet if you want to make money. Emialing photos is just a waste of time because you want to be able to draw cleints in when they are browing through other escorts. If they see some blank ad with a description they will just skip over you. It is a risk you will have to take. Showing your face will give you way more calls, but if you dont feel comfortable with that than there are ways you can get around it as long as your photos give a full look of your body and profile of your face.

SOME one mencioned that you could get away with just free ads. Yes if you posted to enough free ads you could do decent buisness but not the kind of buisness that would give you the chance to just turn on your phone when ever you wanted to get calls and choose your schedule. THere is only one website on the internet that is worth paying for but this site is amazing. Its 100 dollars a month but the first day you advertise you will make your money back if not up to five times. The first day i posted i got 20 calss. wwww.eros.com is the itnernets oldest escort derectory, they have no problem getting tons of providers adveritsing. The only other site that is worth paying for is www.cityvibe.com but this is mostly for east coast citys. You have the option of review boards but this is only a lucrative advertising venue if your city is tied to a steller privatly local board like mine is though it is a peice of elitist bull shit.
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Wednesday, September 21st, 2005

Subject:My New Blog...
Posted by:tinozthefish.
Time:5:08 pm.
Hello All...

I just started a new blog about my experiences working in the sex industry in New York City. It's written from a feminist/queer/sassy rebel type perspective, and I would really love it if you would check it out, maybe give me some feedback...


Thanks for the support, I really appreciate it. And keep up the posts...

Cherry B.
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Saturday, September 10th, 2005

Subject:The Network of Sex Work Projects seeks an Intern in New York City
Posted by:birdsongorg.
Time:4:38 pm.
passed on from those industrious ladies and gentleman at PONY

In 1991 an informal alliance of Sex Workers and Organizations that provide Services to Sex Workers formed as the Network of Sex Work Projects (NSWP). Current campaigns address Research Ethics of Clinical Trials Involving Sex Workers in the Developing World; Funding Restrictions On Moneys Earmarked for HIV Prevention and Anti-trafficking Efforts. Read more...Collapse )

Interested applicants should send a letter of interest and their resume to nswp-us@raingod.com. Current & former Sex Workers, sexual minorities, and women are strongly encouraged to apply.

Cross-posted to brendahoward, escorts_only, feministsexwork, newyorkers, nyc_women and once_addicted. Please feel free to cross-post this as appropriate.

UPDATE: Yes sorry folks, but "Intern" generally means "unpaid but looks good on your CV".

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Friday, September 9th, 2005

Subject:I'm glad I found a great community.
Posted by:kellie_syren.
Time:2:36 pm.

I'm a 23 year old pro domme.

I decided to join because I want to learn more about how people let the cat out of the bag regarding our specific line of work. I also want to see how non-industry people feel as well.

Right now I am involved with a 27 year old guy. He isn't my sub or slave. (I like dating guys who aren't in the scene) I see him as an equal. When we first met I told him I was a photographer. Which I was at the time. I was taking pictures for a local company doing E-bay auctions. I also got hired to photograph intimate nudes for couples.

I told him I was working in the porn industry. He turned red, looked at me weird and said "Oh yeah?". Then made a comment about me letting him be a lighting person.

When I made the leap into being a full time dominatrix I came clean to him as soon as I could. We were talking and I kind of brought it up jokingly, saying "What do you think of those dominatrix type girls?" it was kind of funny because he had no idea where I was getting. I don't remember what he said but I know he was embarassed. It wasn't negative at all. I do remember the look on his face though. He also brought up the fact he dated a stripper before.

It was really interesting how this guy I am seeing just completely opened up sexually/fetish wise to me and didn't judge me by what I do for a living. He too like everyone else has one fetish or more. Maybe dating a girl like me is a turn on to him..he's still hanging out even after some of the work stories I tell him. :)


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Thursday, September 1st, 2005

Subject:Call for Submissions: Sex Worker Anthology
Posted by:birdsongorg.
Time:10:57 am.
Mood: energetic.
another "good thing" passed on from the nice people at PONY

Hi everyone! Please forward far and wide!

Contributors wanted for an anthology of writing by sex trade workers to be published by Soft Skull Press. All genders are encouraged to submit, as are current or former workers from any area of the sex industry: survival workers, strippers, whores, hustlers, pro dommes, film or print models, escorts, etc.

All kinds of takes on the industry, positive to negative, are welcomed.

Essays, narratives, and comics are all acceptable, fiction or non. Unpublished writers welcomed.

We are looking not only for accounts of personal experience, but also for pieces that reflect the unique position sex trade workers occupy on the front lines of struggles with race, class, gender, ownership, and desire.

Deadline: October 15, 2005
Length of submissions: 1500-3500 words
Send submissions as word or .txt attachments to: swas3@juno.com
Editor: Annie Oakley
Payment: Fee and copy of the book


Cross-Posted to brendahoward and feministsexwork

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Monday, August 29th, 2005

Subject:intro and waiting for my partner
Posted by:virusinme.
Time:10:41 pm.
What a great relief to find this community. I am dating a male stripper who strips for men, and I find there is little support for male sex workers and also very little understood about straight men who work with gay men. Its not something he can talk about and not something many people understand. I do, its called money and desperation, and a no questions asked atmosphere.

He wants to leave the industry but it probably wont be for a while, its not realistic. He doesnt work that often but when he does its a huge process of preparation, physical and mental. Emotionally and spiritually he turns off but its better for his work when he doesnt because its his spirit (and his sexy ass) that his clients like.

However, many nights while my partner is working, I worry knowing how stressful it can be. The best times are the calls about funny or weird clients or doing well or if having a bad night, I can be encourageing and loving and make him laugh. I know its just a job and I honestly dont care what happens during his shifts, as long as he feels okay with it and doesnt do anything that makes his feel like shit. He has gone down many roads and knows his limits now, but over the years it has taken a toll on him emotionally and psychologically. Nowadays he limits his activities unless its with a client he likes or knows well. Less desperation I suppose.

Also he tells me that being able to talk to me about everything and my support make it easier. I hope so. I just want the best for him and although Id rather he did something else, I really dont care what he does as long as hes happy.

Anyway hes working a double tonight and Im just chillaxing until he comes home. Nice to find others who may be able to relate.
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Wednesday, August 17th, 2005

Subject:Recomendations for "Sex-Worker Positive" Couples Counseling in NYC
Posted by:birdsongorg.
Time:11:15 am.
Hello we just found you. What a useful community!

We are looking for resources for our members and perhaps you can help.

We are in need of recommendations for some people who are thinking of "Couples Counseling". However . . . since one of the partners is in the Sex Industry they are having a hard time finding anyone.

When inquiries were made the reaction of most Counselors was "well the entire problem is that person X is a Stripper/Pornographer/some variety of Sex-Worker".

Actually that is NOT the problem. This is a case where both parties knew the other's profession going in and were OK of it, [within bounds . . the work & money related issues are Relationship Issues NOT alleged 'moral' issues].

These people would simply like some professional assistance not an exercise in moral re-armament.

Can anyone recommend someone in the NYC area. They should be accessible via public transport. Also the price should also be within the means of a "typical" Middle-Income family as I do not believe insurance would cover it.

Thanks and love,

X-Posted to birdsongorg, feministsexwork, once_addicted & the PONY Lists.

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Monday, April 4th, 2005

Subject:intro and zine idea
Posted by:on_her_trapeze.
Time:9:04 pm.
Hi there,

I just thought I'd make a quick post to introduce myself and explain why I'm here.. Basically I'm a former sex worker, and I got into the work through my girlfriend, who is still in the industry and has been for about 6 years. Since we have an open relationship anyway, and I've worked myself, it doesn't bother me what she does but am fascinated to hear other people's viewpoints, both positive and negative, on the subject. I'm also hoping to write a zine soon, on the subject of sex work and issues surrounding it, with the hopes of getting a varied picture of the whole spectrum of sex work. I'd also be very interested in the perspective of the partners. So, hopefully you'll be hearing from me again soon on that subject.

Hmm, not much else to say at the moment, so bye for now!

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Thursday, November 18th, 2004

Subject:In love with a call girl
Posted by:elpelp.
Time:1:59 am.
Mood: frustrated.
I find myself in a predicament.

I visited her recently and found her to be very very appealing!! She performed oral without a condom and showed real commitment to the task. I was tired so I decided to lether have some fun first and I proceeded to lick her out. After a 10 minutes or so, she came, hard. It was very sexy.

She sat up and cupped my face to tell me that I am the first man to ever give her an orgasm (she can only reach orgasm by herself). She said she could fly, and was very happy. She told me that she loved my physique and that she wanted me to fuck her without a condom. I was surprised and shocked and I could not proceed. However, I became extremely attracted to her.

She told me her real name. She said I was gorgeous. She told me that she lost her virginity at age 19 and she is now 22 and she has never had a relationship.

Anyway - I think I have fallen for her. However, I cannot come to terms with how I should approach this . . . Please help!!! I don't want to turn into a jealous monster!! How should I try to cope with this if I want to pursue her as a girlfriend??
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Monday, September 27th, 2004

Subject:PSA: Talent Call
Posted by:primofex.
Time:11:40 pm.
(Please note that I am not an exotic dancer, escort, or otherwise active in the adult industry, though I have recently started a second job as doorman at a gentlemen's club. I joined simply to pass on this notice.)

hey friends! please forward n repost n tell all your smart and talented friends!

The Sex Workers’ Art Show is now accepting submissions for our third annual national tour!

The Sex Workers' Art Show is an eye-popping evening of visual and performance art created by people who work in the sex industry to dispel the myth that we are anything short of artists, innovators, and geniuses! The cabaret-style event includes music, spoken word, dance, and all other imaginable performance art; it also includes a small visual art display that travels with the tour. The artwork and performances offer a wide range of perspectives on sex work. The show hopes through its diversity of viewpoints to move beyond "positive" and "negative" into a fuller portrayal of the complicated ways sex workers experience our jobs and our lives. For more info about the show, visit www.sexworkersartshow.com

This year's tour is happening mid-Feb. 2005 thru mid-March 2005. We’ll be starting in Portland, going down the west coast, across the south, and up the east coast. Venues will be varied, from small bars and clubs to large theaters to college campuses. We'll be travelling in two new vans, and staying mostly in hotels with a handful of stays at peoples' homes. There will be eight performers, a technical director, and road crew along. It's a low-budget deal; pay will be a guaranteed $2000/performer for the whole tour; plus hotels, transportation to the first show and home from the last, and occasional meals. We will also provide staff to sell your books, cd’s buttons, whatever.

People of all genders from all areas of the sex industry are invited to submit any kind of visual and performance art, including SHORT film or video. Work must be in some way sex work-themed. If want to do spoken word, please send a COMPLETE version of everything you would like to perform. You may also submit video or DVD of your performance. Performances should be no more than 15 minutes long. Visual artists should ematos in jpeg format. Please send a brief bio that includes length of time and areas of the sex industry you’ve worked in. Work must be submitted by October 15th.

Email all inquiries to info@sexworkersartshow.com .
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Wednesday, July 21st, 2004

Posted by:pepperbug.
Time:4:45 pm.
First off, I want to say that my wife is a part-time model and not really a sex worker. My wife's modeling consists of artistic nude and tamer fetish stuff. She's been doing this since the end of May. I don't believe that she has any intention of expanding her modeling into soft or hard core pornography. However, this is the most promising community I've seen for airing my thoughts on her modeling. This doesn't seem to be a very active community, but I'll give it a shot.

I married my wife before she began the modeling and I was seperated from her for job reasons while she did most of her first shoots. I've only been able to accompany her a couple of times. She is very apprehansious about me going along because she thinks it will upset the chemistry she has with the photographer. I've been finding it very difficult to accept this new venture of hers. I've gotten jealous and very insecure since it began. She just seems very alien from the woman I dated and married. I want to be supportive of her, but I don't want to be unhappy.

I guess I'm just hoping for people to talk to who can provide me some insight.
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Friday, June 4th, 2004

Posted by:xscabaretx.
Time:6:10 pm.
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Sunday, January 25th, 2004

Subject:New here
Posted by:kikilon.
Time:3:11 am.
Mood: curious.
Hello all.
I am a sexworker, but I wanted to join this community because I have been afraid to start a relationship since I started working in the industry for fear of hurting people.
i thought seein other people's insights might help me be considerate enough towards a potential partner.

I am hoping to hear stories of trust as well as lies, how people found out about their partners' jobs, and how tehy deal with it on an everyday basis.

As for random details, I'm female, mid-20s, and from Australia. I work in a parlour.
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